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8 Things You Can Say When Your Child is Having BIG Feelings
When our kids are having all the BIG feelings, their reactions and behaviors might not be super pleasant to be around. When they get triggered, it’s all too common for us as parents to escalate right there along with them. But have you seen this quote before? “An...
Creative ways to tell your child no to avoid a power struggle
No means no. But other things can mean no also. Does your child have big reactions when you tell them no? Is the word no sometimes or often a trigger for your child leading to all kinds of problem behaviors? We have to tell our kids no. No- do not run into traffic....
When your kids want independence…but you want to get out the door
I do it myself! Me do it! Myself! We hear these things with toddlers or when our kids are learning that new flex- independence. “Never do for a child what he can do for himself.” -Rudolf Dreikurs But what if we don’t have 300 hours to wait for our kids to dress...
What is ACT for parents?
Have you heard of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT (pronounced like the word act, not a.c.t.)? ACT is an intervention focused on psychological flexibility. It helps us to be accepting of the thoughts, feelings, and experiences in our worlds while committing...
Do you ever get lost in your thoughts or your worries? You’re not alone.
Has this ever happened to you? You get so caught up in a tough parenting patch that you can’t see your way out? There is no light at the end of the tunnel? It feels like you are going to be in the land of tantrums, or back talk, or disobedience forever? You’re not...
Avoid the shame game: Separate the behavIOR from the behavER
When we are talking about behavior and making good choices with our kids- it’s important to make sure we separate the behavIOR from the behavER. Behavior is anything we say, do, or even think. It is separate from your child. They are NOT the things the say, do, or...
Sometimes it’s hard to smile at your kids. There. I said it.
A friend recently shared some advice she heard from a speaker or parenting book or somewhere- sometimes you have to remind yourself to smile at your kids. I like that. Sometimes you have to remind yourself to smile at your child. Uh-oh. All the goody two shoes parents...
Self-Care for Moms
When you hear the words “self-care”, what is your reaction? A sigh of relief? Rolling your eyes as it feels like just ONE. MORE. THING.? As a busy mom, we’ve all heard the expression to put your own oxygen mask on first. But when are we supposed to do that? Self-care...
Do you know the easiest way to help teach your child self-regulation strategies?
Do you know the easiest way to help teach your child self-regulation strategies? Narrate your day Do you know the easiest way to help teach your child self-regulation strategies? Narrate your day! One of the first things we want to teach our children is to recognize...
Do you want your kids to rely on your reactions and praise?
One of the biggest arguments against the use of positive reinforcement is this: reliance on external control. The goal is always intrinsic, or internal, motivation for our kids to WANT to engage in appropriate behaviors. The goal for myself is intrinsic motivation to...
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